Relaxing into Life


“By relaxing into the moments of life, I am finding things work out on their own and I am a happier person for it.”

Everybody who knows me, knows that I am not a relaxed person. I am kind. I am gentle. I am caring and compassionate. “Relaxed” is not the word that describes me. I’ve always been a little “on guard” and also a worrier. In part, it is positive because I am ready and I am conscientious. Yet, it also means I am somewhat in “fight mode”, most of the time. In a sense, I am resisting life, as it comes my way. I am cautious, I am careful, and I may just be missing the point!

Having said all this, lately, I am learning the path of least resistance is the easier, more fulfilling path. Going with the flow is counter-intuitive to me because I am ready for the challenges and obstacles of life; this is what life has taught me so far:  be ready for the unexpected and unpredictable. However, when we expect challenge, we also miss those key, magical moments of alignment and flow; we miss the joy.  By relaxing into the moments of life, I am finding things work out on their own and I am a happier person for it.

Relaxing into life means several things to me. It means trusting in the process. By trusting people and trusting that things will come together, I don’t have to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. Then, with less worry, I can have more fun. Also, by relaxing into life, I am being flexible. I have to adapt to several changing factors of the equation – all of the time: my moods change, other people’s moods change, plans change, desires change, and life changes. By being flexible and open to many options, I am ready for the unexpected, even though the unexpected is completely out of my control. Finally, relaxing into life means letting go: letting go of my illusions of how things should go, could go, and ought to go. I’m also letting go of any and all preconceived notions of what life will be like when – I am older, in a new job, or in a certain relationship, etc. These notions can lead to false expectations and much disappointment. Everybody knows happiness comes in the present. How we feel about life is conducive to a heightened sense of awareness and being able to live in the now!

By trusting, being flexible, and letting go, I am stepping into life. The result is more ease and more fulfillment. When you work with people and the world and cooperate with life, as it unfolds, you enjoy life experiences more, thereby having more fun, laughing more, and appreciating what is before you.